I am married to a man with bipolar disorder. For the longest time, I didn't know that this is what he had. I just thought that he was being mean to me for no reason at all. Just when he found out that he had bipolar, I had an affair because I couldn't deal with the tension and lack of attention from him. We separated for about 6 months. During this time, he almost succeeded in committing suicide.

I wanted to have our marriage back but felt that I would do more harm to him than good. We are back together now, and things are still rough, but I have researched this disorder and know that a lot of times his illness is beyond his control. I have learned that no matter what, he needs me to be there for him.

I hope that anyone that is married to or involved with someone that has this disorder finds a way to help their loved one deal with their disorder and is willing to stay by their side no matter what. My husband and I are willing to work on our marriage because we love each other that much. Showing that you care and love someone no matter what is probably the most important thing that you can do. Just be there and try to understand what they are trying to deal with. You must also LISTEN to them when they are trying to express how they feel. It's hard sometimes, but know that it will work out for the best.